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How do you react if someone comments or jokes about your weight?

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How do you react if someone comments or jokes about your weight?

 
Posted : May 30, 2022 11:27 am
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It breaks my heart. I spent my whole childhood watching my mother battle bulimia and I remember holding her hand an they would feel ice cold because she was so thin. I had to take care of myself growing up because my mum didn't have the energy. Now she's recovered and doing well. I was SA when I was 17 twice by my bf at the time. I started to binge eat and put up a stone. M y mother made me feel I wasn't as beautiful and clothes didn't suit me cos of my tummy. Because of mg mother saying this and her past broke me. I've lost all the weight recently and I still don't feel beautiful. Loving your body is hard as it is without other peoples opinions and judgment. We are all battling our own lives.

 
Posted : May 30, 2022 11:41 am
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In my experience, I was going through bad time in which I found comfort in food, I became 'big' I was 10-11 yrs, Everyone kept pointing out how big I am and that I should loose weight. I can't really remember how I could react or if their words got to me back then. Fast-foward to age 15, I lost appetite completely, came down to 58kgs and from that point on, I wasn't happy with my weight, I wanted to have little more. Everyone would congratulate me for for losing weight and giving compliment. I kept telling everyone I want to gain weight but they would say am talking nonsense how I'm better like this. From age 15 I succeed to maintain my weight to 61-62kg. Now am 20 and discovered I'm down to 58 again, It was devastating for me. No one around me seems to care how I feel, every time someone would mention my weight it is just a reminder of the way I lost weight. I hated myself for it.

 
Posted : May 30, 2022 11:55 am
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I have a big complex about my weight. Being the 'big one' in my family I was always compared to my thinner sister and mum as a kid, even well into my teens, I had a woman at church ask my mum why I wore a different top to my ie lavalva (traditional Samoan 'skirt') and if it was because it was the only top I could fit, While I was standing RIGHT THERE! Jokes' like that chipped away at me bib by bit and it cost me a lot of peace of mind growing up... Now I'm a lot more comfortable in my skin so I just try and brush a lot of it off, but they do still bother me sometime ☹️ 

 
Posted : May 30, 2022 12:04 pm
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@alexisellington Oh don't listen to them, you're imperfect i the most perfect ways

 
Posted : May 30, 2022 12:06 pm
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I wish I had courage to tell them to get stuffed. But in reality I do my bet to be a invisible and small as possible. Shaming about weight and size has always been a big thing in our family so it's intensely uncomfortable eating with them to have a running commentary on what I should /should not eat from what they served me to loose weight.

 
Posted : May 30, 2022 12:11 pm
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@aleidahornsby I totally get you my dad used to taunt me a lot about my weight every time I ate junk or even ate more than required, I cried at night, now he doesn't say anything and I've lost a bit of weight as for you pls don't be disheartened by those comments, I know its very wrong when they do this but you have to stay motivated .

 
Posted : May 30, 2022 12:15 pm
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I tell them it's inappropriate. after recovering from anorexia(including secondary amenorrhea for a year) and damaging my heart, I've started the rough journey of loving my body regardless of weight. I don't mean to trauma dump, but it's jut a small reminder that everyone has gone through difficult times even if you are unaware of them and It's always smart to be mindful of what you joke about or speak on.

 
Posted : May 30, 2022 12:21 pm
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I feel so sad 😏  but at times I think of what to do so I could loose weight but I don't like exercise so I decided to do IF it's my first week doing IF my last weight was 80kgs I have recently checked what I weigh now

 
Posted : May 30, 2022 12:25 pm
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I've always had people comment on how skinny/flat/not curvy I am and it always sticks with me .And these people have been some close friends. I do wish I had more feminine features that the modern woman has today like bigger butt and boobs. But then I realise I like my body and I'm not going to change it for other people saying things about your body out of jealousy and I'm not going to waste my time on them by calling them out for rudeness. They can deal with their own self hatred that they can express toward other people. They can deal with their ow shit while I walk away being unbothered and almost feeling better about myself because they felt the need to put me down!

 
Posted : May 30, 2022 6:37 pm
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I just think it's rude to comment on a person's weight. Whether you are telling them they've lost weight or gained weight, I think it's rude. You never know what a person is struggling with so it's better to just not comment on that. There are other thing to make comments about "you look great" "That outfit looks great on you" That dress really flatters your figure" I love it!" You don't have to say a single thing about the persons weight Unless someone asks you specifically, don't say anything about it.

 
Posted : May 30, 2022 6:46 pm
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I've had so many people comment something about my body LMAO.

My own dad made it clear to made he didn't want a chubby daughter and to make matters worse, guy wanted me didn't even want me because all they liked was my ass and my kitty mitty. Like yes I am plus size with Hawaian rolls, Huge baked buns in the oven, mommy milkers and chubby stomach with an extra ide of stretch marks and a combo of cellulite. I've even had a dumb asses who thought I was pregnant like whaa??? I don't body shame whatsoever but the next bitch that ay sum shit about my weight out of nowhere  or it's the first thing they say when we arguing imma make sure my fat ass sits on them.... Suffocate bitch! 🤣 ❤️ bet you won't say shit else a bit next time!1

 
Posted : May 30, 2022 7:03 pm
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I don't care what they say about me and my weight. But it was not always so. Imagine, before I was really afraid to go to the gym, because I thought that everyone would laugh at me. Instead, I rode my bike away from people, it is great, and also walked in deserted places. In fact, people don't care about others, so I was able to feel relatively comfortable in the gym.

 
Posted : December 24, 2022 5:10 pm
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